Happy Anni, Charleston! | Lessons from the Past Year
Today is a big day!
Today marks the one year anniversary of my move to Charleston! It also happens to be just a few days after my 27th birthday. (It also happens to mark nearly two months since I've done this little thing called blogging, but we won't go there...)
25 was hard on me, and 26 brought on a whole new slew of changes – some for the better and some insanely challenging. But I'm determined to make 27 and my second year in Charleston my best year yet. I say "my" best year instead of "the" best year, because I want to make this year full of intention, gratitude, and heart – all things that I have control over.
That being said, I thought I'd share a few lessons I've learned over the past year, that I want to continue putting into practice. In reality, these are things I have always known; I've just started putting them into practice. Yes, some of these things are obvious, but it's a pretty amazing feeling finally figuring them out in my own good time.
ONE | Change is good. But it doesn't always have to be monumental to make a difference.
At this time last year, I needed a good change. So I did what any sane human would do and quit my job, packed my bags, met some strangers on Craigslist, and drove 1,000 miles away. (Kidding on the sane part...)
At the time, that big change was just what I needed; but that doesn't mean that every time I'm in a funk I need to uproot my life. Little changes can make a big difference, too. In the past year, I've started a new workout routine and I've never felt better; I've joined the Charleston Junior League in an attempt to make some new friends, and am so looking forward to volunteering and putting myself out there (I wish I could say that was my main motive for joining, but alas, small changes); and I pushed and pushed until I landed a job with a company that I'd been following since before I moved to Charleston. Say it with me, "I'm a pusher, Cady, a pusher." You don't need to change everything at once. Start by making small, incremental changes in one or two elements of your life and you'll start to notice a difference.
...And for those of you who were wondering, those Craigslist finds wound up being keepers.
TWO | Know my worth.
I was actually just talking with my mom yesterday about being valued and respected at the workplace, and how refreshing it is to finally feel empowered, trusted, and able to grow. Rather than making me feel inferior, unintelligent, and genuinely horrible about myself, this is really, really refreshing. And that should be the standard, not the exception. If that is not the case, know your worth and stand up for yourself. This does't just apply to work. In my next relationship, I want to be valued, respected, and put first. I want someone who admires me for who I am and who sees the value in me as much as I see the value in them. I deserve that.
THREE | It's ok to be sad... and to admit it.
I'm not going to be ok all the time... and that's ok. I'm human. We're all human. And humans get sad. Life isn't all rainbow sprinkles and unicorns every day, and sometimes you need to just be sad. I bet I'm not the only one who has days when everything is going great, and then the next day BAM, feeling lost and confused and financially unstable and unsure of what the heck I'm doing. Other days, I just feel sad, without any real rhyme or reason to it. But alas, that's part of life, and the rainbow sprinkles and unicorns will always return!
FOUR | I'm a whole lot braver than I give myself credit for.
*Insert high five emoji*
Now for something a little less emo, I thought I'd share some of my favorite snapshots from this dreamy, steamy, holy city! (Read: buildings and food.)